I didn't have to look for my husband. He was delivered to my front door by a mutual friend, who planned to introduce him to my older sister. Opportunity knocked, but I opened the door.
Opportunity can be anywhere - almost anywhere. I wouldn't look for husband material in a ninety-nine cent store. Maybe the guy's saving money, but maybe he's cheap.
I wouldn't look for Mr. Right in a coin laundry either. If he can't afford a washer and dryer, he can't afford you.
Men in singles bars can afford drinks, but would you really want to marry a man who was looking for a wife in a bar?
Safer places to husband hunt are supermarkets, libraries and dog parks; but in each place you have to watch your step.
There's a good chance a man's single if he's in the supermarket's produce department. Few women trust their husbands to be as particular about tomatoes as they are about televisions. However, be sure the amount he's buying would feed only one person.
If you see a likely prospect in the library, you're ahead of the game. You know he can read. If you walk past him slowly, you can see what he's reading. That's where you have to be careful. Maybe he's still in school. Maybe he'd expect you to support him while he finishes school. No, you can't judge a book by its cover; but it would be nice if you could see the table of contents.
A man spending time with a dog in a dog park is caring and responsible. Just make sure it's not his girlfriend's dog.
Several of my girlfriends have tried blind dates. The problem with those is making sure the person arranging the blind date isn't blind to negatives the guy might have.
Then there's internet dating - twenty-first century blind dating. It has problems too. How do you judge a man from his picture and a few sentences he writes about himself? What man's going to mention anything negative? Now the computer has the hard drive. The hard drive used to be the first few minutes after a blind date picked you up.
The best way to find your life partner is to look around as you walk through life - look in church, clubs, the PTA and volunteer organizations. That way you won't have to break stride to look for something in common. |
