This term is one of those new terms that is getting a lot of use. With the high rate of premarital sex, divorce, and infidelity we have now become the age of people that has more children outside of wedlock than within the bounds of Holy Matrimony. Besides baby momma drama we have language ingrained into our society like "my baby daddy" and "my baby momma".
I was born in 1969 and graduated high school in 1987. Yes I dated myself. I remember growing up in Reisterstown MD and not truly understanding when my friends called, what I thought was their father, by his first name. Or when someone would say that is my half sister. You see I came from a family that you just did not see that in. It was foreign to me.
I thank God that my parents are still happily married after 39 years of marriage. Now come to my generation. I have one sibling, my younger sister. Now I have one child from a previous marriage and she has a child with a man that she was not married to. Were did we go wrong. My dad used a term with me years ago that kind of stuck with me. He said that your generation doesn't have that "stick to it".
You know the bible says that the children pay for the sins of the parents. Well I am for one ashamed that I did not make better choices and better decisions in my life. I realize that because of mistakes that I have made and probably will make, my children will receive a disadvantage from that. I yet thank God that they will also receive a benefit from the good decisions that I have made as well.
The thing is that most of what is going on in the world is not even concerned about the outcome in the long run because we live in a society that concentrates, exploits, and promotes instant gratification. You see when sex and elicit behavior is encouraged and promoted on TV, in our music, and in advertising we develop a feeling of well it is just the way things are.
We have in affect created a generation that has perpetuated wrong behavior because sex before and outside of marriage has become an accepted behavior in every avenue of our lives and now after 3-4 generations of babies raising babies, we now have what we call DRAMA. Drama-the quality of being dramatic. Ok, are you dramatic? Are you better suited to be in front of an audience performing a play than dealing with real life?
Have you ever played the dozens, well if you don't know what the dozens are you are just younger than me? The dozens is when two people enter into a contest of seeing how can talk about worse or embarrass the other worse. It usually happens with a crowd of people around cheering or egging on the whole thing. When we get into the drama of my baby daddy or my baby momma, we usually bring up things that are not conducive to solving a problem with a the child in question.
When we talk about the other person in negative way and vice versa this behavior only serves to try and make you feel better or bigger than the person that you decided to lay down with and create this child. Now the person that you chose, what does that say about you? I think it raised some serious questions about your judgment and your intelligence.
Remember, you are the one that chose them. You are the one that opted to enter this union if you will. Now you, they, and the child have to endure the decision that you made. |
