When partners reach a stage wherein one partner cannot tolerate a bad habit and the other partner cannot leave the bad habit, the ground is ripe for divorce.
Five Marital Habits That Can Lead to Divorce
To divorce or not is not an easy decision. No one wants to end a marriage without a reason. Torturous marriages can be very hard to deal with. Coping with your partner’s bad habits can almost feel like a slow death. The suffering partner is bound to get very frustrated after sometime and seek divorce. The following bad habits, according to me, are totally unacceptable in a marriage.
• Smoking
Not many smokers realise the consequences of smoking on their marriage. My very close friend’s husband was a regular smoker. During the early years of marriage, he used to refrain from smoking at home because his wife did not like him smoking inside the house. However, a few years after marriage, he stopped paying heed to her requests of him smoking outside the house.
We all are aware of the dangers of passive smoking. My friend developed a breathing condition due to all the smoke that she inhaled because of her husband’s habit. In addition, their young daughter too started becoming inquisitive about this habit. My friend was constantly worried about the effects of smoking on her young daughter. After all, it is not easy to explain to a young child that what her father is doing is wrong but he is doing so nonetheless.
Very soon she started feeling that her husband was not only being disrespectful towards her own health condition but also not being a good role model for her daughter. To protect herself and her child from the dangers of smoking, my friend had to seek divorce.
• Short-tempered
Fights occur in every marriage. In fact, healthy fights are also important in making a marriage a successful one. However, it is important that you respect your spouse even when you fight. Many people have a short-temper and, therefore, they have a habit of saying the harshest things during a fight.
While some situations do make a person lose his or her temper, it should never reach a stage wherein you hurt your partner to such an extent that it becomes hard to mend that hurt. Your partner may ignore your temper once in a while, but it is not easy to ignore someone’s temper all the time. When one or both the partners are short-tempered, the marriage is likely to break.
• Suspicious Nature
Many people are suspicious of their partners without any reason. For them, it may be a habit to doubt the integrity of their partner or maybe an underlying insecurity compels them to doubt their partner. In one such case, the age difference between the husband and wife was 10 years. Therefore, though initially the husband was very happy to be married to a pretty young thing, soon he started developing an insecurity because of his age; there was a constant fear that the wife will run away with someone younger or cheat on him behind his back.
These fears completely ruined their 10-year-old marriage and now they are on the verge of ending their marriage. The suspicious nature of the husband made him not only torture his wife mentally and physically but also made the wife feel completely helpless about the situation because no matter how much she loved him, he always doubted her. A marriage is based on trust and if the trust is not there, the marriage stops making sense.
• Alcoholism
Alcoholism breaks more marriages than one can imagine. It is very common for alcoholics to fight, physically or emotionally abuse, and torture their partners when they are intoxicated. Since alcoholics may not even remember displaying such behaviour in their intoxicated stage, they do not even feel apologetic after returning to their normal state. This behaviour cannot and should not be tolerated by the suffering partner. If the alcoholic partner is not ready to seek rehabilitation, the suffering partner should seek divorce.
• Abusive
If the partner displays abusive nature, emotional or physical, the marriage cannot survive. The abusive partner should seek counselling and only if the abuser displays signs of improvement should the marriage be continued. If not, the victim should seek divorce.
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