Effective communication keeps listener's attention andinterest, proficient communication enables your classmates, friends and the family not only to listen but also `see' you in your talk.
Who are you targeting? You must know your objective and speak keeping the end in view. Audit and filter all of the feelings you are experiencing. Most importantly know precisely whether to appeal to the emotions or the rationale of the listener.
What action do you intend to get from others? Place your point of view. Be logical and concise. As far as possible, try to express and not influence. Proficient communication enables you to get your point effectively across to your classmates, friends, teachers, family and the people you deal with. Never argue beyond a point. The more you win an argument, the more others distance you.
Do you love what you are talking about or regret it afterwards? Let your emotions not dominate you. Rather than blurting out, choose the right way to phrase your feelings. Keep control of your voice. Allowing your voice to rise in volume or speed up could be an initial sign of aggression. On the other side, speaking quietly or hesitatingly could mean that you are slipping into passivity.
Are you giving gaps between your talk to listen to others? Facilitate listening. Know your listener. Does he want to listen more or want you to be brief? Does he love to be pampered or is he averse to it? With what intention are you talking? It is for others to understand you. Talk in others' standards and not yours. Choose the words and images appropriate to your listener's level of understanding.
The intention of talking is either to give or to take. Be pleasant while communicating. See if your movements, gesticulations and posture match your message. Pronounce the other person's name often.
When someone else is speaking, you need to look intently at them somewhere in the region of 60 to 70 per cent of the conversation time. However, when it is your turn to speak, look at the person only half the time. Don't stare at them continuously that could make them think that you are an unhinged or dominating character. Fifty per cent of our talk is without purpose and just to share feelings. "Speech is silver, silence is gold" said a philosopher. But talking right with a right purpose is platinum.
We hope this article may help you in communicating with others. Effective communications will always keeps listeners in attention. It is an advantage to express your thoughts and ideas to make a winner!!!
